Today was hard. I just have so many thoughts reeling around in my head after attending the funeral of the father of one of my classmates. In addition to that, Steve’s parents gave their “talk” about Janelle, Steve’s sister to the youth group tonight. It always stirs up so many memories and emotions for me. And to put it bluntly…I am just an incredible mess tonight.
At the funeral specifically, I was so touched by the meditation the pastor gave. After hearing everything the three girls loved about their Dad, the pastor delivered beautifully a message of love and the risk of hurt and grief that comes with loving somebody. And even deeper than that, she went on to describe the amazing love Jesus had to come to earth and live among the people. His crucifixion and death on the cross that was worth all of the pain in the world to Him, in order for love to conquer death three days later in His resurrection.
There was a quote. I have no idea who quoted it, although I am sure it was said today. But it grabbed me. Because as I sat, listened, and cried listening to the love described for their father, husband, brother, and friend—I began wondering why do we invest in the people we love? When we know the risk of loss? I even began wondering why in the world did we have kids—knowing that one could have cancer or life-threatening illness, or be killed in a car accident? No one knows how long any of us will be here on this earth. It is not a guarantee. But is that worth protecting ourselves from the pain of loss? Is it worth not loving? Would it had been better to not ever know and love Steve’s sister Janelle, or my brother Nate? Here is the quote–not as eloquently spoken as I heard today, but you will get the idea…
“The risk of love is loss, and the price of loss is grief – But the pain of grief is only a shadow when compared with the pain of never risking love.”—Hilary Stanton
And that is why we love.