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calling all abigails…


I don’t know about you, but I had no idea there was a man named Nabal in the bible.  I guess I must have missed that in Sunday school?!  I have, however, heard of Abigail.  And of course, most have heard of David–especially when you associate him with Goliath.

We have just wrapped up our 3rd week of the virtue of Peace at Journey Kids.  Amazing to me the many, many stories that correlate with this virtue.  I know when I think of the old testament stories, peace isn’t exactly the word I would have used to describe it.  So many rules, do’s and dont’s and repercussions for not following the law.  But nestled in all of that is God’s big story.  And His strong character of peace which is shown through different people.  It’s pretty awesome when you think and read the bible like a great big story book.  So Children’s Ministry is where it’s at for me, as I’ve said before.  It must be because I need to learn like kids do.  I am re-learning all of these things with them. 

Our story yesterday centered around Abigail who interevened and basically stopped a war and the killing of many people—by finding a solution to a problem which in the end, really wasn’t so big in the first place between David and her then husband, Nabal.  There was the illustration used for yesterday’s bottom lineProve you care more about others by being part of the SOLUTION. 

Our kids were pretty awesome at coming up with their own stories about arguments, gossip, and fighting between each other and how they can be the “ABIGAIL” and intervene by being part of the solution. 



Looks to me like resolving conflict is fun, doesn’t it? 


We can’t kid ourselves.  Conflict is just a part of who we are as people.  It happens with the very tiniest kindergartners all the way through to middle school, high school, college, and beyond.  But, we can stop that cycle by being part of the solution.  I used to love a song called “Don’t be Talkin’ About Friends”.  It was by the group Acapella.  I was seriously obsessed with this group for the obvious reason of how awesome they sounded.  The words to these songs were just pretty powerful.  In the song it goes on to say…”don’t be talkin’ about friends when they’re not around, don’t be bringing them down…and my absolute FAVORITE line of the song…“if there were no one to hear it, IT COULD NOT GO ON!!!” 

Convicting, that line, isn’t it?  I am convicted, I know that.  We had a part of the lesson about when you hear your friends talking about someone else that isn’t nice– if you are there–be a part of the solution.  The kids’ answers to helping to be part of the solution were “say something nice about the person they’re talking about” or “tell them to stop talking like that it isn’t nice.”.  Our kids are smart.  And we as parents can pray that they are convicted to do something in these situations at school, church, or wherever they are.  We can help them by not perpetuating it when they come home and talk—because everyone needs a place to vent, right?  The fact of the matter is we are our kids’ strongest role models.  Scary, isn’t it?  The responsibility lies on us. There is a fine line between letting our kids “vent” their frustrations and taking sides with them, OR teaching them to talk things through in a healthy way.  Man, it is hard.  But we don’t have to do it alone. 


Thank you, thank you God—none of us are in this alone.  But we are each responsible for at least one person, aren’t we? 


I have to include this picture, because Natalie is needing to come up with a solution.  She is smiling so big because she knows these big alligator tears are very fleeting…in fact, THIS very sweet thing is what gets Natalie up on Sunday mornings!

Romans 14:19

Let us do all we can to live in peace, and work hard to build each other up”

I think this verse is beginning to stick!  Just in time too…only one more week of this virtue.

february virtue.


I have debated and debated delving into this post today.  In my mind, the nagging or nudging continues.  So I am going to go for it.  And, besides.  It’s the new virtue for Journey Kids this month.  And I am going to be teaching on it ALL month. 

First of all, I have to say that I love, love, love 252 Basics, the curriculum we use.   In my opinion, I have found that being a teacher using this curriculum is about as simple as it gets.  Not to mention that we have an amazing Children’s Pastor who organizes, finds volunteers to pack up everything we need for each week, and there for support whenever needed.  (maybe that is it?)  But, I know how much fun Steve is having as a Sunday school teacher—and it’s a huge blessing to see.  Having his son in his class may change that—better not speak to soon…

THE VIRTUE.  Peace.  When you think of the word PEACE what does it really mean to you?   

The teaching on peace this month is exactly how I want to teach this virtue to my kids.  So many times, especially in the Mennonite faith, much is associated with “war” when talking about peace.  The fact of the matter is, the term “mennonite” does not mean “peace”.  The term “peace” does not mean “anti-war” or “anti-government”.  So that being said, I do not believe those can be interchangeable.  Saying we are against this or that isn’t always “peaceful”, is it?   Above all else, when teaching kids (and adults for that matter) what are you going to listen to most?  Someone being negative and telling you NOT to do something?  Or someone telling you the way to live for Jesus?  I know what my answer is to this.  And by modeling and teaching kids to live as Jesus wants them to, they will make difficult decisions for themselves.  I really, really believe that.  Without ever having to say “this is bad” or “we don’t believe in this”.  To teach the “connection between PEACE and God’s character as shown through God’s big story”.  I don’t think any of us can argue that God does not want us to reflect peace in our relationships with others, can we?  And I’ll say it again…this curriculum is awesome in their teaching on peace.

The Life Application:  Peace:  Proving you care more about each other than winning an argument.

The Bottom Line:  Prove you care about others by walking away from a fight.

Memory Verse:  “So let us do all we can to live in peace.  And let us work hard to build each other up”.  Romans 14:19.

Each story for the next four weeks reflects the virtue of peace in the bible.  Yesterday it was Isaac’s wells.  Did you know about Isaac’s wells?  Read it in Genesis 26:16-22, 26-31.  So interesting to see this virtue put into practice, WAAAYYY before Jesus ever walked the earth.  Just part of God’s character of peace in His big story. 

Kourtney and Landon were having some issues riding in the back seat on the way to school.  This is nothing new.  Especially in the mornings at our house.  I found it quite amusing to hear each of them ask the other…”did you hear what we learned yesterday about caring more about ‘me’ than winning this fight?”  Not exxxaaaccctly how I would have worded it.  HA!  But I think they kind of “got it”.  Even if it was from a very egocentric point of view!  I have some ideas on what next month’s virtue could be…